26/1 forwarded by my dad,thot i should share

Thoughts cause feelings, and the wrong kinds of thoughts can causestressful feelings.We can look at the same event different ways. It helps if you can learn tolook at the good things in life rather than the ugly. For example, if yougot into a car accident and totalled your car, you can sit there and feelsorry for yourself, or angry for losing the car.
These are allself-defeating. On the other hand, you can thank god that you were notkilled or, worse yet, maimed in the car accidents. When you look at life'sevents like that you will have something to smile at every event and thatis the power of positive living.Guidelines in looking at problems in the proper perspective:

1. Every Living Human Being Has Problems.
Perhaps you are unhappy with your work. Isn't it good that you have a jobrather than being unemployed? Many people have the mistaken notion thatsuccessful people do not have any problems. It is not true. Success tendsto breed its own set of problems.Everyone has problems. A problem-free life is an illusion - a mirage in thedesert. Accept the fact that everyone has problems. This will help you tomove on with your life rather than sitting and feeling pity for yourself.

2. Every Problem Has A Limited Life Span
Every mountain has a peak and every valley has a low point. Similarly, lifehas its ups and downs. No one is up all the time or down all the time.Problems do get resolved in the long term. They don't last forever. Historyteaches that every problem has a limited life span. Your problems will notlive forever; but you will! Storms are followed by sunshine. Winter isfollowed by spring. Your problems will get resolved given enough time.

3. Every Problem Holds Positive Possibilities
There are two sides to every coin. What may be a problem for one could beinteresting opportunity to someone else. Hospitals are there because peopleget sick; garages are there because cars do break down; lawyers are therebecause people get in trouble with the law occasionally. Every cloud has asilver lining.

4. Every Problem Will Change You
When me meet problems head on in life, they leave their indelible mark onus. The experience could make you better or worse. It is up to you. What iscertain is that problems never leave us the same way they found us. We willchange. For example, let us say that you lost your job. You can sit andfeel sorry for yourself. Or you can be aggressive and decide to dosomething about it. You are better than them. You want to show them what amistake they did in firing you. You have to be fired before you can befired up. That may be wake-up call you needed before embarking on asuccessful mission. Again, for every problem, there is a positive andnegative side. Look for the positive side and work on it.

5. You Can Choose What Your Problem Will Do To You
You may not be able to control the problems, but you certainly can controlyour reaction or response to the problem. You can turn your pain intoprofanity or into poetry. The choice is up to you. You can control thereaction even if you cannot control the problem. You control the effect ofthe problem by controlling the reaction. It can make you tough or tender.It can make you better or bitter. It all depends on you.

6. There Is A Negative And A Positive Reaction To Every Problem
Tough people have learned to choose the most positive reaction in managingproblems. The key is that they manage their problems. Remember, we havelittle control on problems; we have control on how we react and manage theproblem. Positive people chose to react positively to their predicaments.
Do you automatically interpret silence on the part of your spouse to mean anger when it could just as easily mean fatigue?
Do you blame yourself when a sudden downpour drenches your wash on the line?
Do you dwell on the few times your boss criticized your performance and ignore the innumerable times s/he's praised you?
We all fall into the negative thinking rut from time to time. We badger ourselves with "should haves" and lose sight of the fact that "good" and "bad" in life is rarely black and white. All-or-nothing thinking can lead to anxiety, depression, and feelings of inferiority, perfectionism and anger.
We are our worst enemies.
We tend to put a higher standard for us compared to others.
We tend to criticize ourselves for our miscues rather than being happy for the accomplishments.
Allow yourself to fail now and then.
It's all part of being human.

Love yourself. Ask and ye shall receive. Enjoy the moment. For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness. Accentuate the positive, not the negative.It takes both the sun and the rain to make a rainbow.

p.s.sorry about some of e spacings.....i jus copy n paste it....